Aren’t we past the whole “but safe sex ruin the moment” complaint about using a condom? Apparently not, because we still have to talk about how to get your man to use a condom without pausing the sexiness that’s happening. But hey, more communication about sex – and safe sex, especially – is never a bad thing.

There are so many ways you can introduce a condom before you get down and dirty without the act of playing it safe ruining any mood. First and foremost, don’t expect the guy to have a condom– buy your own and be prepared for anything.

Condoms

There’s nothing inherently sexy about a little piece of latex that puts a barrier between you and your partner, but it’s necessary to reduce your chances of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy. There’s nothing less sexy than an STD. Plus, you can introduce a condom in a sexy way.

• Be sure you have some within easy reach so you don’t have to pause the flow to fumble around to find one.
• Keep them in your nightstand, or buy a condom pouch to keep in your purse.
• Don’t use a condom he pulls out of his wallet – temperature changes and friction can reduce their effectiveness.
• Tear the package (carefully) and then slip it on him while making eye contact – that’s definitely hot.
• You can even slide it on using your mouth – be careful with your teeth, of course.

Lube

Safe sex isn’t just about using a condom to prevent STDs and pregnancy. Lubrication is sometimes necessary when you’re going at it because, let’s face it, there’s a lot of rubbing going on down there. Add a ceiling fan and things can start to get really uncomfortable. Using lube doesn’t mean that you’re not turned on, or anything, it just makes the whole experience so much better for both of you.

• Get a water-based lube that’s safe for using with condoms.
• Make putting the lube on part of the foreplay – you can use your hands to glide the lube slowly up and down on him.
• Try saliva – it’s a great, natural lube, and there are so many sexy ways you can, um, apply it (read: don’t just spit on it – that’s gross).

Safe sex may not sound like it’ll be hot sex when you think about the potential awkwardness, but look beyond that. If you’re confident that the sex will feel good for both of you, and you’re both protected, you can relax and enjoy every touch, thrust, and moan.