Talk Dirty to Me – Tips to Use During Foreplay
by Coleen Singer, Sexpert at Sssh.com Porn For Women
Sex can be great, but it can also be a source of contention between men and women. All too often we find that men are all about the end game, while women need the foreplay to even consider hitting the home run. It doesn’t mean you can’t compromise. In fact, the reason a lot of men don’t engage in foreplay isn’t because they’re not willing upon your request. They actually don’t know enough about it sometimes.
Since men are programmed that sex is about ejaculating and nothing more, they haven’t taken the time to spice up the pre-game in the past. So, it might be up to you to get things going.
In case you aren’t quite sure how to initiate foreplay or don’t have ideas on what might be enjoyable for both of you, take a look at some tips to get your engines thrumming.
The Massage
It doesn’t matter who initiates – a pre-coital massage can really add something interesting to the mix. Slowly removing clothes to reach different, more intimate parts of the body as you go is a sensual way to arouse someone, male or female, and this leads to both parties taking the time to truly heighten the pleasure. By the time you reach the point of intercourse, you’ll both be ready to burst!
Focus Somewhere Else
The penis, the clitoris, and the vagina are the obvious organs involved in the act of sex. But think about all the places you like to be touched when you’re getting in the mood. First of all, let him know when he finds an erogenous zone. But don’t think that, just because he’s a man, he doesn’t have them, too. In fact, there are a number of areas of a man’s body that turn him on. Try nibbling his jaw or ear, licking a line on that cord in his neck, or even pinching his nipples. You’ll find he responds as readily as you do, and he’s more likely to imitate your attentions in the future!
Change Direction
If you’re going down on him, consider moving so that you’re perpendicular to his body. It gives you a new angle so you can approach his penis with different motions. Don’t forget to use your hands to work the base when you can’t take him all the way in. Then, when it’s your turn to be on the receiving end of oral sex, have him in the same position. When he licks across your clitoris and labia rather than up and down, he’ll activate more nerve endings and drive you wild. He’ll also have more room to work with his hands.
Go Easy
Have you ever had a guy go too hard? Your clitoris is so sensitive it can actually work against the excitement factor if he works it too hard. Now, translate that to the head of a penis, which is a similar bundle of nerves. When you’re stroking or giving oral sex, try not to overstimulate him. Take it easy on the head, and he’s more likely to do the same for you. Not only is it more sensual and more likely to get you where you want to go; it will actually help both of you last longer because you aren’t pushed to the edge right away.
Non-Erogenous Zones
Okay, ladies, here’s the real meat of it. Literally.
Our bodies – male and female – both have many parts, and there isn’t a spot on them that doesn’t contain nerve endings. Even if some places aren’t particularly erogenous zones, they can lead to excitement.
Men are muscled creatures, and so you’ll want to stroke his ego as much as his penis. Pay attention to his biceps, as well as his abdomen and pectorals. These are the most muscled areas of his body, and he’ll appreciate the time you take to kiss and stroke parts that aren’t really related to the sex.
By the same rule, women are softer creatures, and we can get our rocks off with just a little extra attention to these areas. The back of the neck, the valley between the breasts, and even the insides of the elbows or backs of the knees are too often ignored. Suggest these places to him, even by tending to them on his body, and watch how much your sex life improves.
The point is, there’s no reason to rush, and if you just give your man a hand with some ideas, both of you can reap the benefits. When it comes to foreplay, it’s all about exploring and trying new things till you find what works.
