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How to Stay Safe During BDSM Play

So, you fancy a little bit of play fun, right? You figure you could see yourself being tied up, spanked, maybe even a little bit more…?

Sex play can be fun, healthy and a brilliant way to relieve stress and explore a more erotic side to your psyche. You can either be the dominant one, and find a willing partner to play the role of the submissive, or you can decide to be the one to relinquish control yourself, and be the submissive. However, while BDSM play may be a spontaneous thing that happens in your imagination, in reality, it’s vital to discuss the groundwork with your partner (or partners) for how your BDSM sex session will play out. What is or isn’t acceptable? When does no mean no? How far is too far? There is a very fine threshold between pleasure and pain, and while even painful pleasure can be fun, not everyone wants pain with no pleasure.

It’s important to establish a sense of trust during any BDSM play. For example, if you are using the services of an escort service to explore this side of your sexual nature, be sure to choose a reputable service who can cater to BDSM clients and have a team of girls who understand how fetish play works. You want a willing participant, after all!

Here’s how to stay safe during a BDSM play session:

  • Always use protection. Safe sex is vital to keep both parties safe. If you’re using condoms, place them where they will be close at hand to not interrupt the flow of your role play. Don’t forget the lube, while you’re at it.
  • Discuss beforehand how far you are willing to go sexually. Is full penetration ok? Anal? How hard is too hard when it comes to whipping or beating? What may feel like a light slap from a guy could be a painful borderline assault for a female. Are there any limits? You must both be outstandingly clear on this to ensure everyone stays safe and happy. This isn’t a conversation to have as you are getting stuck in. Discuss the whole BDSM scenario from start to finish. Have a full and frank discussion before you begin and every time you’re about to do it again. People’s ideas and emotions can change from day to day, as can what they may or may not enjoy in that exact moment.
  • Agree upon a safe word. Discuss before you start what it will be, and if it gets used, you must absolutely respect it. 
  • If you are going to be using some kind of whip, paddle or spanking someone, you need to learn how to do it safely and the body parts that can and cannot be hit using these tools. Do some homework to ensure its fun.
  • If you’re going for more extreme auto asphyxiation play (choking), it’s really important you know your own limit. Don’t fool around or decide to be macho and think you’re going to take it further than anyone ever has. Because there were people who have done that, and it’s cost them their life.

Yes, it may seem boring, having lots of rules, but it’s those rules that ensure your downtime is the most fun time too.

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