When it comes to sex, you’re not always in the mood, but it can become problematic if you’re turning your partner down all the time. The go-to option is a blow job, but why? Because it’s hard to get your partner to reach orgasm with just a hand job? Maybe it’s time to consider why that’s true, since our hands are important in both sex and blow jobs, aiding in the stimulation of the penis in both cases. Why can’t you manage to do it with just your hands? Because you haven’t tried some different hand job techniques that can really get him going.
Praying Hands
As if you were praying, put your hands together, palms against his shaft and fingers pointed up. Slide up and down, applying pressure as you go. Make sure you put enough pressure on his head to truly stimulate but not to squeeze too tight. Follow the signs based on his reaction. This is a lighter, teasing touch you can use to get things going.
Ring Around the Penis
Also a great way to start, this involves making a circle with your thumb and another finger – which one depends on his girth. Start at the base and run the ring up to the head and then back down. With the right amount of pressure, this will create a tugging motion that will really rev him up.
Light the Bonfire
Picture the technique you use with a sharpened stick dug into the kindling to start a fire – palms flat, fingers pointed away from you as you roll the stick between your hands. With your partner, do this more slowly, moving up and down his penis to find the most sensitive areas to the technique.
Verbal Stimulation
A lot of men like ‘dirty talk’. Try using your mouth in a different way as you stroke him – to give him images that will bring him closer to orgasm. Talk about sexual positions, things you want him to do to you next time you have sex, or how big or thick or perfect his penis is. Men aren’t that different from women when it comes to using their imagination.
Change it Up – at the Beginning
When you’re getting started, tease with a light touch that gets heavier, and try different techniques. But as he starts to warm up, you don’t want to make so many changes. Stick to the two or three motions that seem to stimulate him best. And when he’s about to finish, don’t change anything at all – keep the same movement at the same steady rhythm, or you could set him back. That leads to frustration and, in some cases, failure.
Conclusion
Trying different things can unleash the beast, and it just takes some time and practice to figure out what your partner likes and what will get him off. As a bonus hint – don’t ignore the perineum (the area between the anus and the scrotum). If he’s close and just not quite going over the edge, a gentle massage in this area can heighten the sensation and make his orgasm phenomenal!
