Sex on the First Date – Is It Still Taboo?
He’s going to think you’re easy.
He won’t respect you.
You’re a slut if you give it up that quickly.
And so on.
You’ve probably heard everything that can be said about the negative stigma of sleeping with someone on the first date. And maybe it does carry a little danger to it – how well can you really know someone after one date, right? But let’s be real here. Today’s society is very sexually driven, and that goes for both men and women. Gone are the days of women remaining chaste until marriage while men rack up notches on their bedposts (even if that myth is proliferated still).
As with most topics related to sex, there’s no one right answer to the question, is it okay to have sex on the first date? But there are some ideas you can keep in mind to better evaluate if you’re ready to be on your back or knees after a single evening of wining and dining.
Things to Consider
Are you looking for a stronger connection that sexual attraction? And if so, do you feel it with the date in question? It’s hard to tell after a couple of hours, especially if you’ve gone to the movies or done something that doesn’t allow you to talk and get to know each other a little. If you feel like there’s more to explore, maybe you should hold off until you know for sure. On the other hand, if you feel an intense sexual energy between the two of you, and you aren’t worried about connecting on a deeper level, your biggest concern should be taking the proper safety measures before deciding to tear his clothes off.
Are you worried about the perception of others? Maybe you met this guy through a mutual friend, and you don’t want your friend to start pawning you off on other guys because they think you’re easy. If reputation matters to you, think twice before spreading your legs on the first date. On the other hand, women have made their voices heard in terms of being strong and independent, capable of making their own decisions without thinking about judgment. So, technically, even if someone is going to judge you, it’s still your choice. And for the record, it’s your life, and you don’t have to feel dirty or slutty if you enjoy sex and want to give it up on the first date. You wouldn’t be alone in that preference.
The long and short of it is this: if you like the guy, and you’re attracted to him, just be safe. Maybe you’re not one to sleep around or give it up easily, but this one time, it just feels right. Go with it. Yes, society likes to paint the picture that it’s a taboo to do it, but we all know the truth. Women have been as sexually driven as men in most societies since back in the dark ages. Take each opportunity separately, and decide in the moment what works best for you, not for the rest of the world!
