Flirting. Laughter. Double entendre. Overtly sensual touching.
These are all flirtatious ideas, but when it comes to building that anticipation and keeping things interesting, sometimes subtlety carries a great deal more power in this area. It’s human nature for arousal and desire to build in a swirl of heat and intensity, and that’s whether it’s a new possibility or your partner you’re flirting with. So, rather than come on too strong, give into that nature and use more subtle ways to entice the person across from you, making them yearn and crave until they are unable to turn away from you.

Touchy Feely

We’re not talking about groping or brushing against the most intimate of places here. That’s too overt for flirtation that simmers before it boils. Instead, consider some of the things you can do to make your target pay more attention to you. For example, brush your hair behind your ears with your fingertips, and then let them trail down the side of your neck to your collarbone. You can bet an interested party is going to watch every move you make and get a little hot and bothered. When you laugh, make it soft, and graze your lips with your fingers. It draws their eyes to your mouth and the thought of kissing or other things you can do with your mouth.

Of course, you also want to touch the other person, but pay attention to the places most people don’t go without intimacy – that you can give attention in public. Brush a hand down the inside of his arm, and you’ll see him shiver. Press a hand to his chest and linger for a moment before pulling away. Comb fingers through his hair – if he’s not dead set on gelling it perfectly – and let your fingers slide over his ear in a whisper of a touch on the way down. This is sure to get him trembling with need. Anything light, a little more familiar than a handshake, and subtle can really do the trick.

And Don’t Forget Body Language

This doesn’t mean throwing yourself at someone or clinging to them, brushing your chest against his arm. It’s also not about letting him see down your shirt or up your skirt. Rather, it’s about appearing open and interested.

Did you know that simply crossing your legs can be a sign of closing off to someone? And should you cross your arms, even if it’s natural, you send a signal that you’re completely shut down? Instead, try pressing your knees together with your feet on the floor – modest but open – with your hands on your lap or the table. Lean in enough to show you’re listening.

It’s also vital to make eye contact, especially in a world where everyone is buried in a smart phone. Take the time to really look at your partner – or the man you may want to have as a partner – and listen when he talks. Make sure you have his rapt attention when you talk. And with these few simple gestures that are far subtler of a direct invitation, you’ll have him eating out of your hand.

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