Hopefully, you have yet to experience that moment when sex becomes routine and, sadly, boring. There are so many positions and suggestions for trying something new out there that it seems you have endless opportunities for exploration. The truth is, sometimes you’re already jaded and don’t have the strength to fold or stretch yourself into that crazy position. In that case, you need something to remind you that sex doesn’t have to be routine. It can actually be very easy to spice things up, if you start to explore the erogenous zones you may not have even known were there. Don’t know how to explain your desires to your partner? Write them down and slip him the list with a wink, and you’ll have his attention.

Elbows and Knees

If you’ve never had anyone kiss or lick the inside of your elbows or the back of your knees, you’re missing out. These are some of the best and most exciting places to explore – or rather, have someone explore – in the bedroom. Even if it seems odd to you, there’s something about these tender, ignored areas that send a signal straight to your core of intense arousal. I speak from experience when I tell you this sort of attention can literally drive you wild.

Feet

I’m not talking about a foot fetish. I’m talking about the ingrained sensitivity we have in our feet and toes. All your partner needs to do is kiss his way down the inside of your thigh and along your shin until he gets to your feet. With fingers and lips, he can kiss and massage an really worship your feet, just enough so that you’re reaching for him and pleading for something a little more penetrating.

Back and Shoulders

I don’t know why it took me so long to connect the dots. I love massages. They are the next best thing to sex in my book. But it’s all because the back and shoulders can really be stimulating. Next time, roll over and let your partner stroke your back so you shiver. Let him rain kisses over your shoulder blades and lick his way up and down your spine. This will also lead him to the curve of your rear end, which is just as sensitive to this sort of attention. You’ll be melted into butter by the time things get worked into a frenzy.

Stomach

Maybe it’s because it holds a lot of promise with its proximity to your genitals, but the stomach can be super sensitive, and attention to it can be extremely rewarding. I remember the first time a man licked a circle around my navel and stroked my stomach, I nearly had an orgasm right there, and he’d never even touched anything intimate. Don’t overlook this area when it comes to foreplay and heating up the bedroom.

Sexual pleasure and avoiding routine are in the small details. It’s not always about role play or tantric sex or innovative positions. Sometimes, it’s a small thing that can make a world of difference and spark new intensity in your love making.