Men want blowjobs, and even though they may not be at the top of our list, women want to give them because, honestly, we want our men happy. So, how do we get past that initial hesitation that keeps us from really getting into the groove and giving great head? The key is to make sure that your man is getting what he wants – but so are you. Don’t just give without getting – put something in it for yourself.
Watch Yourself
Why do men like fellatio? It’s not just about the way it feels to have our mouths around their penises, although that’s a great part of it. They like to watch us while we do it. Ladies, we’re sexy when we give blowjobs, and there’s no other way to say it. So, get a mirror! Make sure you know what you look like. If you don’t want to watch yourself as you go down, find a way to watch his expression as he watches you. Seeing the control you have over him, the way he reacts to the things you do, can be a real turn on. Don’t let the opportunity slide, and you’ll find you’ll get a lot more enjoyment out of the act than you ever have before.
Try a New Position
Maybe the whole idea of fellatio bothers you because you can’t find a comfortable way to do it. Have you considered the multitude of positions you could try to remedy the situation? You don’t have to go into a full 69 – it can be difficult to concentrate on your own pleasure while giving – and you don’t have to be on your knees all the time. Maybe you could ask him to get on his knees while you lie back and relax. This could even give him some control over how deep you take him and help you open your throat more in a more relaxed position.
Don’t Rush
We all want to get ours, and we’re all guilty of rushing through the deed in hopes that we get ours in return. And goodness knows it can be a lot more difficult and take a lot longer for a woman to score an orgasm. But that doesn’t mean we should rush through fellatio. In fact, if we linger and take our time, trying different things with our mouths, we may inspire our man to attempt something new with you. If you evoke a new sensation with the way your teeth trace over his head, for example, it could cause him to see what the sensation does to you.
The idea is that fellatio should be something enjoyable for both of you, not just on the receiving end. If you take the time to find your rhythm and seek out ways to pleasure yourself while pleasuring your partner, you can really improve the impact for both of you. Because really, does your man want you to grin and bear it, or does he want you to get into it and enjoy it?
