Lack of sex drive can come from multiple factors, so you shouldn’t immediately start to worry. Maybe you don’t feel attractive because you’re aging or put on a couple of extra pounds. Maybe you’re too tired and stressed from some other aspects of your life. Perhaps you’re just going through a phase. In some cases, it’s a mental or truly physical problem.
But no matter the cause, there are plenty of ways to treat the issue. Some require a doctor’s diagnosis and recommendations, while others are excellent home and natural remedies. Either direction you choose, there is no reason to lose hope.
A Doctor’s Take
A doctor may give you a physical pelvic exam, recommend blood tests, or refer you to a specialist in order to get a clear diagnosis as to why you have issues with your sex drive. This can help provide the best recommended course of treatment, which could include:
• Medication that boosts libido for women. It’s a newly approved drug that holds great promise. Other medications offered may be antidepressants or, if you’re already taking a certain kind of antidepressant, switching to a different one that doesn’t necessarily have low libido as a side effect.
• Hormone therapy. This is especially viable if you have some dryness or shrinking that makes vaginal penetration uncomfortable. Low estrogen can also cause low libido, just as a lack of testosterone in men.
• Counseling. In some cases, there may be an underlying mental issue to work through, which a counselor can assist you in finding and overcoming.
Home Remedies
Of course, there’s a lot you can do at home to boost that need for a little sexual healing. Some of the most common ways to pick up the pace are:
• Less stress. Learn to manage the stress of daily life so you’re more relaxed. It’s hard to get the serotonin or endorphins flowing enough to get busy if you’re constantly worrying about things.
• Exercise more. Aerobic exercise is a good boost for mood and stamina, and combining those things can really get your libido going.
• Make time. Yes, you’re busy, and so is your partner. A lot of the time, you may be busy at different times, which keeps your schedules misaligned. While scheduling sex doesn’t seem very sexy, it’s better than never getting any and will help induce that sex drive for both of you.
• Communicate. Let your partner know what’s going on, and spend time sharing intimate conversation. If you learn to be intimate in other ways and share the burden of your issue, that closeness will eventually translate to a more intimate physical need.
• Try a topical stimulant. This can get the parts of your body into the game, even if your mind isn’t there, forcing your thoughts to align with your physical needs for a great, satisfying experience that makes you want more.
• Spice it up. Consider a different location that gets you out of the daily grind to have sex. Just a small change of venue can work wonders.
• Avoid bad habits. Smoking, an overabundance of alcohol, and illicit drugs all detract from that ‘sexy feeling’ and actually dampen libido.
