Play Parties: Is the Orgy Making a Comeback?
To get right to the point: Play parties aren’t exactly orgies, but they can be, if that’s what you’re in to. An orgy is, at its base, a tangle of flesh and genitals from various bodies, but generally they’re couples in one corner, a threesome on the couch, and so on. And really, the orgy never really went away. Play parties are the newest thing that’s only new in the way they’re organized.
Orgies of the Past
Once upon a time, an orgy was disguised as a normal cocktail party at someone’s house. The host or hostess would provide some alcohol and snacks, and guests would bring their own booze, too. By the end of the night, everyone is at least somewhat inebriated and inhibitions begin to crumble. Then the sex starts. And it can be group sex, couples, threesomes, and for some, just a voyeurism kind of thing.
The awkward part might come afterward, when people try to talk to each other and get to know one another. Generally, though, people would just pass out, or quietly slip out the door.
The Play Parties of Today
Today’s play parties aren’t so much orgies, as they are an organized gathering for those who are into kinks, or not, to hang out and do, well, whatever. The play parties that have no theme also have no judgement. Into BDSM? Get your whips and latex on, girl. Bi-curious? Satisfy that need to know. And there’s everything in between.
Perhaps the biggest differences between a play party and an orgy are that there’s no food, no expectations, and no judgement at all. Also, people are polite and respectful. You might run into an overzealous creep here and there who gets a little too touchy-feely, but eventually they will find their people and move on, or someone will escort that person out. A play party today is only as uncomfortable as you make it.
Go to a Munch
One of the big changes to the sex parties of yesteryear and today is that they’re far more organized. The hosts also seem to be big on safety and comfort of all those involved. And that’s why they’ll have a “munch” first. A munch is a pre-play party meet-and-greet. They’re usually held in public spaces, such as a restaurant or a hotel conference room. You can come as you are and casually meet those you might be having sex with later that week. It’s a good way to test the waters and figure out whether this is your tribe or not.
3 Rules to Follow
Want to go to a play party? Follow these simple rules for a fun time for all.
- Consent. Just because someone’s at a play party does not mean they necessarily want you groping them. Always ask first. And consent can be sexy – whispering “May I?” while giving a sultry look can work well.
- Bring your sex stuff. There might be condoms available, and even lube, but bring your favorite things to ensure you have a good time. Oh, and clean up after yourself.
- Be respectful. Above all, just respect those around you. By all means, watch what’s happening, but if you get the vibe that your gaze is unwelcome, turn your attention to an obvious exhibitionist.
