Men masturbate.

It’s something we’ve all grown up to know, and we accept it as truth.

Women? That’s another story, right?

Don’t kid yourself – you’ve done it, your best friend has done it, your boss – the corporate bigwig in the pencil skirt with the power hairdo – has probably done it. And still, no one wants to talk about it, unless you’re referencing porn or trying to turn on a guy (because they love that idea, of course).

At the same time, there should be no shame in pleasuring yourself. Women have come a long way in showing equality in so many areas in society. Why are we still hiding in the sexual realm? If men have the right to do it, why don’t women?

It’s especially something to consider, for a number of reasons, not the least of which is getting to know your body.

Why You Should Touch Yourself

• It can make you bolder. If you spend time finding your own pleasure, learning how to enjoy yourself by yourself, you’ll be less likely to hold back when someone else is pleasuring you.
• You’ll learn what gets you going. A lot of women have trouble with orgasm because, honestly, they don’t know where their erogenous zones are. If you don’t know what turns you on, how are you supposed to communicate to a partner what feels good? Having this information can really aid you in having a phenomenal sex life.
• You’ll be more confident. There’s an old Seinfeld episode about being the ‘master of your own domain’ that’s referencing masturbation. It sounds funny, and they turn it into a joke, but when you truly master your own orgasm, you have a certain feeling of power that actually adds to your confidence.
• You’ll be more willing to experiment. Playing with your own sexuality can lead to experimentation that produces surprising results. You’ll learn things about yourself and your sexual appetite that can lead to more adventurous sexual encounters. More than that, you’ll find that you’re more willing to try new things with a partner, having discovered that things you might have otherwise been leery to try turned out to be pleasant.
• When you have a ‘dry’ season, you can still be lush. Just because you don’t have a sexual partner doesn’t mean you have to let the sexual tension build up. Consider that you have the capability to release that pent up desire and unleash your beast without waiting for the right lover. This will make it easier to say ‘no’ to the wrong person as well.

Despite stigma against self pleasure, the truth it, it can be quite enlightening, as well as a better solution to your needs than looking for the first willing partner. It’s safe and can be an educational experience that leads to a better, stronger sex life and a happier, healthier perspective on life. If you’re not convinced, try it once. When you see the results, you’ll understand. And the next time you do want to sleep with someone, you’ll discover the difference it makes for you as well.